Importance of a Mentor

Today’s post came from reading another post that I enjoy by Lynn Cowell

As a youth leader, I see the importance of having a trustworthy adult in your life, and I have often spoken of this very thing.  You need someone you feel comfortable going to and talking to about things, but it should be someone who will give you sound advice.  Your peers are not always the best ones to fill this role. 

As a parent I’ve always hoped my kids would feel comfortable coming to me about anything.  Although my children are young, my husband and I alreadystrive to cultivate a relationship where they will feel safe coming to us with all struggles they face.  What I learned from Lynn today is that, even though our children feel comfortable coming to us, it really is vital to have another adult in place who they feel comfortable talking with as well.

As Lynn says, if you don’t have a strong adult in your life outside of your parents, you will find refuge in your peers.  It may not seem like an issue to you that your peers are who you seek advice from, but they are dealing with the very same issues you are.  An adult has already been through the struggles you’re dealing with, and she will have a better idea of what’s ahead for you.

I recommend reading Lynn’s post today whether you’re a teen, single adult, or a parent.  I think you will take a lot from today’s words of wisdom.

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2 thoughts on “Importance of a Mentor

  1. I did have a mentor and she impacted my life in wonderful ways, and I agree that there is wisdom in the counsel of many, but I’m not so certain you “need” an adult aside from your parents. I know I’m not the norm, but my mom is literally my best friend. And I think what we need most of all is to cultivate that precious relationship between mother and daughter. I pray that you will have that kind of relationship with your daughter. Don’t ever start believing that you cannot fill that role in her life.

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    1. I definitely agree with you about cultivating a relationship that fosters that type of relationship, and we pray for that relationship with our children. However, if you were able to read Lynn’s post, you’ll see my reasons for writing what I did. 1) Not every parent fosters that type of relationship, and I understand that. Many of my readers do not have that relationship because their parents didn’t make that a priority, and they tend to go to peers rather than the sound advice and wise ear of an adult. 2) I want to know that if for any reason my children come to a point in their lives that they feel the need to talk to someone other than myself or my husband on a subject that they have someone who is filled with the same values we are and walks with God who they feel comfortable talking with. I would prefer having a person who is involved in our family that our children grow up knowing that they can feel comfortable opening up to if a time ever arises than someone who may not lead them in an appropriate direction.

      I’ve worked with many many girls over the years who have the most amazing relationships with their families but want to talk about things with me as their leader on some subjects. I’ve seen parents get angry when they know their child is talking to someone else (usually the parent who doesn’t have a healthy relationship with their child), and I’ve seen parents (almost always those who have great relationships with their girls) who are thankful they come to me because they know we are like-minded, and they can trust my words. And many times, those girls end up talking about the very same thing with their parents later and taking the two voices to heart. It’s so great to have someone else speaking the same truth into our children as we speak to them!

      You said your mom is your best friend, but you also said you had a mentorwho impacted your life in wonderful ways. That’s exactly what I’m speaking about. A mentor should never — EVER — take the place of a parent.

      hope that makes sense. 🙂

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