You read that correctly. Let’s talk about sex. Excerpt from my upcoming study, Attainable Perfection.
God created us to have sex. He created man and woman to multiply. The enemy is like a prowling lion, and he comes down searching for ways to destroy us (1 Peter 5:8). I believe one of Satan’s favorite things to do is pervert the beautiful things God created. Sex is definitely one of those things, and boy has he taken this beautiful thing and flipped it, turned it, stretched it, skewed it and made the outcome be something completely acceptable in our current world.
Young people were having sex before marriage when I was in school and even when my parents were in school. It’s not a new thing. What I see today, though, is nothing even close to what was happening during those days. With each passing day, we hear more and more about some very perverted sexual acts that have become completely acceptable. Young people are often bragging about the things they’re doing that were unheard of just a few years ago.
Dear friend, this topic is one I am so passionate about. I pray that throughout this chapter, you see my heart and understand every word is said out of honest care and concern for you. I urge you to re-read the scriptures in 1 Corinthians: In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Your body is sacred and was created with a purpose. I wholeheartedly believe that each time you choose to give yourself away to someone, you are breaking your spirit down.
Daddy God, I must stop here and pray for the beautiful princess reading this chapter. I pray she sees her body as something sacred. I pray she sees how she is worth so much more than using her body as a sexual tool. Please allow her to understand that by saving her body for who you have set aside for her, she will find physical, emotional and spiritual fulfillment that nothing else can give her. I pray that she sees herself as a princess who is worthy of nothing less than the best you have for her. I pray she does not sell herself short and that she keeps her heart guarded against boys who do not truly have her best interest in mind. Please, Father God, allow her to believe the truth that there are some amazing things in store for her if she makes the decision now to walk in purity until she marries. Let her understand that any past decisions can be washed clean when she lays them at your feet, Lord. Amen.
Sweet friend, you truly are worth only what God’s best is, and his best far exceeds what we have in mind. I work with teens and young adults all the time, so I’ve heard many of the thoughts that might have gone through your own head about sex.
- No one is still a virgin.
- I knew he was about to break up with me, so I went ahead and ______.
- His last girlfriend did ______, so I knew I had to do more than that.
- I really like it, so why would I stop?
I’ve heard these and many more, and I remember having similar thoughts when I was younger. The fact is if you feel like you have to do certain things in order for your boyfriend to continue dating you, then do you really think he is God’s best for you? If you think you feel satisfied when you’re doing something that isn’t blessed by God, then can you imagine what God really has in store for you if you decide to wait? You can make the decision now to stop and walk in purity, and you will still receive those blessings. Friend, when I say blessings, I mean that your marriage bed will be blessed. What you think you like now doesn’t even compare to what you can have when you wait. I hope you see where I’m going with that. God intended sex to be enjoyable when it is with your spouse. Let me say that again. God intended sex to be enjoyable when it is with your spouse.
Another excuse I’ve heard so many times before for having sex outside of marriage is Well, we are going to get married eventually, or the version after the breakup, I really thought we were going to get married, so I thought it would be okay. The truth is, if the guy you’re dating is “the one,” then he will still be there whether you have sex or not, and I can promise you that your relationship will be so much better and happier if you wait for that wedding day. Why rush it? Spend that time growing spiritually as individuals, and then grow spiritually as a couple.
**Preorders for the study, Attainable Perfection, will be open January 1.**