Girl, That Looks Good on You!

She is clothed with strength and dignity.
Proverbs 31:25

In a past post I talked about how much time I spend getting ready for a date.  I fix my hair and makeup just right, put on my favorite perfume, and I spend at least a week deciding what outfit I will wear.  Sometimes I go shopping and get a new one just for the occasion.  I’m willing to bet some of you can relate to this because you do it yourself.

There’s nothing at all wrong with doing those things but did you know there is no outfit, no amount of makeup, no perfect perfume, and no special hair product that will do justice for your true beauty without first clothing yourself with virtue?

Virtue is powerful.  It alone will make you absolutely stunning.  The world tells us every day through TV, movies, advertisements, commercials, and songs that virtue is dead.  It says no one wants a virtuous woman and no one with virtue exists, but that’s simply not true.  Remember the enemy is called the god of the world (in Job he’s called the god of the air), and he will create an illusion so magnificent for you that it’s difficult not to trust it as truth.

What Virtue Is

What do you think of when you hear the word “virtue”?  Is it a positive word for you, or does it make you think of someone who is weak and maybe not as attractive as the girl in the magazine?  The definition of virtue according to is:  moral excellence (the pursuit of the moral will of God in every area of life.*); goodness; righteousness (doing the right thing); and conformity of one’s life and conduct to moral and ethical principles. Does that sound boring or exciting to you?  Let’s take a closer look into what a virtuous person is:

  • Strong – one must find strength to be able to fight the ideals of the world and not fall into believing them as truth.  She must be strong not to allow herself to conform to the ways of this world but instead permit herself to be transformed by the renewing of her mind (Rom. 12:2).
  • Powerful—the virtuous woman carries the power of God in her very being.  There is no power greater than that which raised our savior from the dead, and the very same spirit who raised Jesus from the dead is living inside of her (Rom. 8:11).
  • Feminine—a virtuous woman carries confidence in the beautiful creature she is, and her femininity can’t be hidden.
  • Dignified—people look up to her and use her as a role-model.

What Virtue is Not

Unfortunately the idea of virtue has been twisted into something very different from the truth.  Maybe you’ve believed these lies because they’re so strongly reinforced in our daily lives.  A virtuous person is not:

  • Weak
  • Unattractive
  • Boring – she loves on people, and people adore her.  Her family supports her decisions, and she has her hands and heart in many different areas of people’s lives.  She doesn’t have time to be bored or boring.
  • Lonely

I heard a pastor just yesterday say, “Girls, instead of fighting age, focus on developing your virtue.”  Wow.  What a statement! Women today fight age tooth and nail.  Plastic surgery, Botox, and hair coloring is at an all-time high.  Women just don’t want to look their age, and many don’t realize beauty is found at every age and stage of life.  What is bad about showing one’s age?  Who said a 70 year old woman isn’t as beautiful as a 20 year old woman?

If you place your time and effort into developing your virtue rather than thinking about how you will cover up your grey hair and fix your wrinkles when you get older, you’ll look in the mirror and realize the perfection that is reflected back when you’re in your 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and 90s.

By the way, developing your virtue not only makes you much more beautiful than all those age defying techniques, it is also much cheaper!



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Getting Dressed

Hey There, Beautiful!

Do you look at yourself and feel beautiful, or do you see all the things the world calls imperfect and unattractive?  Go to your mirror today and write down everything you see that is beautiful. 

Is it hard to do?

I remember when I was dealing with some major self-image issues, I was given a similar assignment, and I couldn’t do it.  I didn’t like what I saw in the mirror, so I never finished the study simply because I refused to do that one assignment.  I’ve since learned that when a person is filled with God’s Holy Spirit, she radiates his light.  People see beauty when they see her, but it’s an unexplainable type of beauty—something many people haven’t seen before, and they find themselves drawn to her just to get a glimpse of that kind of beauty.

Sweet friend, you are beautiful, and if you have Christ in your life and close to your heart, you radiate that same beauty.  You don’t have to dress provocatively, and you don’t have to spend hours getting your makeup perfect to be beautiful because it’s already there.  You’re already beautiful.

Conceit vs. Confidence

Why else might it be difficult to write down all the things you think are beautiful about yourself?  More than likely you don’t want to sound conceited.  A girl who thinks she’s better than other girls is not at all attractive to anyone, but you know what is?  A girl who is confident in the beautiful creature God created her to be is attractive to everyone.  Keep in mind I’m not talking about attraction the way the world uses this word.  I’m talking about an attraction like a magnet is attracted to metal.  Just like I mentioned above, a confidence in who you are and who you were created to be radiates a light and beauty that is unexplainable to any of us.  It’s a beauty like no other.

There is a huge difference between being conceited and being confident in who you are.  Can you imagine how painful it might be for God to hear you question that beauty he so carefully designed and molded together?

What sorrow awaits those who argue with their Creator.
Does a clay pot argue with its maker?
Does the clay dispute with the one who shapes it, saying, “Stop, you’re doing it wrong!”
Does the pot exclaim, “How clumsy can you be?”
How terrible it would be if a newborn baby said to its father, “Why was I born?”
or if it said to its mother, “Why did you make me this way?”
This is what the Lord says – the Holy One of Israel and your Creator:
“Do you question what I do for my children?
Do you give me orders about the work of my hands?”
Isaiah 45: 9-11 NLT

Who are you to argue with your creator who is completely enthralled by your beauty (Psalm 45:11)?  God is the creator of everything good and beautiful.  No one knows beauty like he does, and he says you are a perfectly created young lady who is not only beautiful but absolutely stunning.  You are so beautiful he wants nothing more than to spend time with you.  It’s not by your actions but by who you are that he delights in you and wants to give you any and all desires of your heart  (Psalm 37:4). 

This week, allow God to be delighted in you and spend quality time growing in your relationship.  You’ll find a love you’ve never known through this quality time.  Your beauty will grow brighter as your spirit grows stronger. 

I hope you can go back to the mirror and fill your paper with all the beauty you see when you look at the reflection.  Will you try it?

In Preparation

I am so excited about this weekend because it’s one of my absolute favorite weekends of the year–the weekend of our youth’s Battle of the Sexes retreat!  In preparation for the weekend, I plan to post this week over topics related to this type of retreat: sex, purity, self-worth, love, dating, and relationships.

A major part of being a leader is preparing the heart for what all God has in store for the students.  However, the enemy is fully aware of how necessary it is to get in God’s presence and prepare ones heart just as it’s important to get enough sleep.  The enemy’s response is to rob us of those things.  Today I ask for prayer from all of my readers.  So far my sleep has been taken from me, and every time I’ve tried to dive into the word, I’m bombarded with unneccessary distractions.  As of right now my heart isn’t prepared, and I’m finding myself easily frustrated because of it.  This happens before every retreat, but something seems different this time, which only tells me that God’s about to do something big this weekend.

Today’s post is far from my typical messages to you as I’m asking for your help by covering me in prayer.  I need prayer for the following:

  • Sleep — Be refreshed and awakened for the weekend
  • Positive Attitude — get rid of any frustration, anger, stress, hardheartedness
  • Words — to be able to say what these girls need to hear
  • Clean heart — if anything unclean is in my heart, I need it to be revealed so I can get rid of it
  • Health (for myself and my family) — I’ve been injured or sick at every retreat except 1, and I want to be at 100% for this weekend
  • Focused — not be easily distracted or annoyed with those trying to distract me.

Thank you so much for your prayers, and I hope God can use me to bless you this week with loving and encouraging words about your beauty and worth.