Who Says You’re Not Perfect?

Who says you’re not perfect?
Who says you’re not worth it?
Who says you’re the only one that’s hurting.
Trust me.
That’s the price of beauty.  Who says you’re not pretty?  Who says you’re not beautiful?*

Every time I hear it on the radio, this song causes me to stop and listen.  What are your thoughts when you stop and really listen to these words?  Before going on, listen to the video below and take the song in as if it’s about you.

This song reminds me so much of my book, The Real You, because the entire premise is about the way God views us versus the way the world does.

I’m no beauty queen.  I’m just beautiful me.

Amen and Praise God!  I fully accept this statement for myself!  According to Merriam-Webster online, the definition of beauty queen is: a beautiful and glamorous woman or girl; specifically: a winner of a beauty contest.

Who is it that determines what beautiful and glamorous is in order for one to win a beauty contest?  The pageants I’ve seen had only human eyes viewing and judging the outcome.  How does that make any sense?  God was, is, and always will be the creator of ALL THINGS beautiful.  He created you, and Psalm 45:11 says he is enthralled by your beauty.  Girl, you won the beauty queen title a LONG time ago, but it was by the one and only person who can judge you with 100% accuracy.  As the first day of my study says, the creator of all things beautiful is absolutely and completely enthralled by YOUR beauty!  There’s no first, second, third runner up.  You were already crowned, so why search for validation in the flawed eyes of those judges?

Furthermore, who is it that says you’re not worth it?  I believe the Bible is God’s Holy Word and the spoken truth given to us by the one and only Savior.  The bible says that God sent his only son – not his first son.  Not his third son.  Not his eighteenth son.  He sent his one and only son that he loved more than any father could ever love a son.  He sent him down to live life in the flesh and die a brutal death just so he could spend eternity with you, his beautiful and perfectly created daughter.  He, the creator of the Heavens and the Earth; the creator of all things good; the creator of all things beautiful and perfect; He says YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY WORTH EVERY BIT OF IT!

The next time you feel judged by who you are; the next time someone makes you feel insecure for who you are; remember that they are looking at you through a lens that is foggy.  They don’t see who you really are.  Remember that you are beautiful, made perfect by the blood of Christ, and completely worth the price he had to pay to spend eternity with you.  Remember you were created with a plan and a purpose, and you are the only one who can fulfill your plan and purpose, so changing anything about who you are can cause you to veer from the path God laid out for you.

Proceed with Caution!

One thing I know about us girls is that when we become insecure, we search for insecurities in others and make sure to point them out.  More than likely, if it’s another girl making you feel insecure or judging you, it’s because she has insecurities herself.  So before retaliating with hurtful words, which is something else we often do, consider the fact that Jesus died for her too.  She is beautiful.  She is worth it.  She is no better than you, and you are no better than her.  Don’t allow the enemy to create an ugly conflict between two of God’s beautiful creations.

One thing I know about boys (not all boys, mind you), is that they create insecurities in girls so girls will become vulnerable to them.  I heard it twice last week alone from a teenage boy, “I know how to handle girls.  Treat them like crap and say a bunch of mean things about them, and they’ll do whatever I want.”  He went on to say, “I don’t do that with the girls I really like.  I only do it to girls I don’t.  Then it’s not a big deal to get what I want and leave them alone.”**

Girls, this is real!  There are boys who knock you down just so you’ll do whatever they want in order to gain approval from them.  Here’s what’s even worse:  we fall into their trap!  They know it will work because it has so many times before.

Never let yourself think you aren’t worth more than that.  The King of Kings and Lord of Lords is your daddy, and as his daughter, you are a princess.  I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, you should never allow yourself to be treated as anything less than that.

Push those lies of the enemy out of your thoughts and replace them with the truth.  Get in the word and fill your heart with scriptures telling you how much God thinks of you.  The bible is overflowing with love letters to you about your beauty, the perfection God created, the intricacy with which you were formed, the importance of your life, the purpose for which you were created, and the priceless worth of your life.

I’ll ask again:  Who says you’re not perfect?  Who says you’re not worth it?  Who says you’re not pretty?  Who says you’re not beautiful?


 Disclaimer:  please forgive me if you enjoy pageants and other beauty contests.  I don’t mean to offend.
*Selena Gomez – Who Says
**italicized words are my own cleaned up version of what was really said.

A Princess Broken — Countdown to Cover Reveal

A Princess Broken is in its final days of completion, and I am counting down to the cover reveal!  In one more week, I will reveal it to all of you and soon after, I will do a drawing for someone to win the VERY FIRST book printed, and it will be autographed by me.  I do apologize for moving the release date back, but I completely underestimated the editing process and how much time and detail would be needed.

For those of you who read up to the last day, you’ll see a few major changes with some of the outcomes, and I think you’ll embrace those changes once you see them.  You’ll also notice the A Princess Broken tab on my page is currently “under construction” because I will soon be giving you the complete first chapter along with some other important information.  Remember YOU were the first to read it as it was being written.

I’m excited to get this book into all of your hands because you’ve been so patiently waiting, and I appreciate it.

Keep checking back for the reveal and the book, which I plan to be out early March (fingers crossed this time) 🙂

Fit Friday Issue 4 – SECRET REVEALED: This Diet is 100% Effective!


So you feel like you need to lose a few pounds.  That means you need to decide which diet will help the most and in the quickest amount of time, right?  Since there are so many weight loss options to choose from, you might find yourself overwhelmed.  Walk down a particular aisle in the grocery store, and you’ll see different pills and drinks.  If you watch any amount of TV, you’ve seen commercials or infomercials about the best weight loss solution created by a doctor who knows, and they usually include real testimonies from real people with before and after pictures.  Then, there are the infinite diets that only focus on food.

Which one do you pick?  Let’s take a quick look into each of these options and see which works best for you.

Pills:  Here’s my question to you about weight loss pills.  Don’t you think if you could lose a substantial amount of weight simply by swallowing a magic pill without doing anything else, not only would a lot of gyms and all weight loss centers shut down, but it probably wouldn’t be sold for $14.99 on aisle 3 of your favorite grocery store, right?

Don’t feel bad for being fooled by all of the research and statistics written on the bottle.  It’s even easier to fall for it when you see something that has a picture of a celebrity trainer on the front.  I’ve been fooled too.  That’s why those pills sell so well is because they know many people will be fooled.

Drinks:  Ahh the weight loss drink.  Whether it comes in the form of water with added “stuff” or shakes to replace meals, there are so many to choose from.   Drinks that are marketed as healthy sports drinks, water with extra weight loss something or other added, or even sodas marketed as diet aren’t created to be your only means of losing weight.  Don’t get me wrong.  I’m not saying they’re bad and don’t ever drink them because that’s completely your call.  I’m saying you shouldn’t depend on them to bring you down to your desired weight.  Drinks like these, thought, are loaded with some type of sugar.  Don’t be fooled with the big print that says it contains no sugar.  Instead it has a sweetener or artificial sweetener.  This means sugar people!  J  Regardless of the way it came to be, it’s all sugar, and the diet drinks sometimes carry as much as a soda, so be careful when adding them to your everyday meal plan.

Then, we have the shakes.  I remember trying them when I was overweight years ago.  What happened?  I was starving!  By the time I got to eat a meal at dinner, I ate all three meals in one until I felt like I would explode.  It actually had reverse results for me because I was eating so much in one sitting, and our bodies weren’t created to starve for the majority of the day and then be stuffed – even if the foods are healthy.

Frozen Meals:  Quick note about the frozen weight loss meals-look closely at the sodium.  Sodium creates water retention and bloating.  There’s no reason that a tiny meal that tastes awful and leaves you hungry should have 550 mg of sodium!  Sure, they’re low in calories, but sometimes high sodium is worse for your weight.

It’s so easy to fall into the traps of these companies because most show celebrity endorsements and amazing before and after pictures from “real” people.  Have you ever looked at the teeny tiny print at the bottom of the package or TV screen?  It says *Results not typical.  It really does say that!  Even the makers tell you up front that it’s not likely you’ll see the results they’re advertising.  And those celebrities pay a lot of money for personal trainers to go along with whatever they’re endorsing.

Let’s nix these ideas and look onto real dieting.  There are so many to choose from, though, so I’ll break it down and tell you the one and only diet that works 100% of the time.

After family, friends, and I have tried many different diets, I’ve found what works!  First, there are some diets and “magic potions” that I’ve seen work amazingly.  I’ve seen sizes drop dramatically.  Here’s what else I saw from those particular diets:  we were always hungry or felt deprived of food we wanted AND as soon as the diet stopped, the weight came back as quickly as it left.  All of that deprivation was for nothing, and this is true for most, if not all, diets.

Tip of the Week:  Don’t Diet!!!              

I wrote everything above just to get you to this point – Diets are not good for you and do NOT work!  This includes pills, drinks, meals, etc.  They just don’t work and to be honest, they aren’t good for you.

The only diet that is 100% effective is not a diet like you think of when you hear that word.  It’s having a healthy diet as a part of your lifestyle.  Diet means food you eat – NOT means of losing weight.  Including a healthy diet as a part of your lifestyle should never make you feel deprived of your favorite foods, and you should never feel hungry.

When your regular diet is healthy and not something you do here and there for a couple of weeks, you should not feel a single bit of guilt when you have “junk food” or dessert every so often.  Just keep it in moderation.

So . . . the best diet you can choose is a healthy, balanced daily diet that fits your lifestyle.  Don’t do it to lose weight.  Do it to be healthy.  Your heart will thank you.  Those diets cause a lot of stress on your heart, and no amount of weight loss is worth that type of stress to your most vital organ.

But I discipline my body and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.  1 Corinthians 9:27

Quickie Quick TestimonyWhen I started cooking my own meals, using fresh vegetables and eliminated boxed and canned foods, I lost about 25 pounds over a period of several months.  At that time I was probably about 30 pounds overweight, so that alone brought me back to a healthy size.  Two years ago, my husband took sodas out of his diet and decided to say no to desserts that are always offered at the office, and he lost 30 pounds over a period of several months!  

Now, we both still enjoy our sweets every so often and our junk food (pizza is a weakness), and he has a soda every now and then, but our healthy eating habits make it okay to indulge sometime .  I changed my habits about 10 years ago and never gained that weight back, and he has kept his off for the past 2 years.

It can be done, but please make sure your goal is a healthy weight and not something the latest actress says she is.  Hollywood numbers are very different from real life numbers.

I love how we find people to speak truth into our lives and find ourselves thinking similarly.  I just started reading today’s blog, as I do every day, by Christine Caine, and she wrote of something that relates well with this post.  Check it out:  Be: Brainwashed Jan, 27, 2012